Active Adult Living Del Webb Communities Retirement

Retiring? Join A Group!

People Are Groupish

We join teams, leagues and fraternities. During the work years we join work groups, committees, trade and professional associations. We were a part of or interacted with groups of employees, vendors, and customers.

Then there are our major groups we belong to in the realm of politics and religion.

Groups helped define who we are. We take on group identities and work together to accomplish goals. Even though the chimp inside us is selfish, we can become good team players and motivate each other and accomplish things we can’t do by ourselves.

Turning to Retirement

When you retire, you leave behind some of your primary groups that were work related. They provided part of your identity, friends, structure and support and will need to be replaced with other groups to provide the same benefits in your retirement.

You hear from the experts that in retirement you need to find a new passion, make friends and get active both physically and mentally.  But they don’t tell you how to do that.

Join A Group

Groups can still play a major role in your life.  They can provide the structure to participate in both physical and mental activities while introducing you to potential new friends and socialization opportunities. They can help you fill your calendar with things you like to do! They can give you some fun things to look forward to. They can motivate you. Groups can serve a greater good and let you do things you can’t do by yourself.

How To Find Groups in Retirement

Start looking for some groups that sound interesting, something you like to do. Create the right mixture of groups to participate in, to create some balance in your life, that maybe was missing during the work years.

If you are aging in place, a great place to start is to visit your local “Active Adult” Senior Center.  Don’t let your bias stop you. Go visit and ask for the Activities Schedule.  I did this when I retired and ended up being on the activity committee.  I joined the walking group on Tuesday and Thursday at 8am and played bocce M-W-F.  I  was in charge of the monthly dinner.  Mary Ann enjoyed the yoga group. Mary Ann and I made new friends and had a great time at our senior center.

This inspired us to move to an Active Adult Community.  This type of 55+ community is the poster child for groups and activities.

We have over 80 groups here at The Village at Deaton Creek, a Del Webb Community.

Active Adult Community Groups

This week I attended the forum club meeting that meets every Tuesday and we discussed Latin American. It was fun and I learned quite a bit.

Mary Ann and I are in the bocce league and we played two games yesterday afternoon. Each game was with different people and we have a schedule to play each of the seven teams twice.  We all meet at the bocce courts each week and catch up, laugh and have a good time.

I joined Larry’s pickleball group, an informal group of us who learned to play pickleball together last year after taking the free class.  Larry coordinates the schedule for the week among about 15 of us.  This is one of my favorite activities because of the people and the game.

The Democratic group made me Treasurer so I get to keep the list of members and collect the dues.  I get to attend the board meetings and the general meetings which I attended last Tuesday to hear a great speaker talk about the climate.

The week I also attended the Veterans Support Group meeting and heard a speaker and the club make plans to support a shelter in Winder for homeless veterans.  I also got some tips about my own veterans’ benefits from this same group.

Two mornings a week I go to Lisa’s Cardio Sculpture class and really like it. It helps with core training which will help my race walking.

I used to go to the Coin Collectors group and the Creative Writers Group but both of those groups disbanded after many meeting. That opened up room for other groups.

Mary Ann loves going to The Culinary club with her friend Mary Lou and playing with her Hand and Foot card group every Tuesday.  So we each have our own groups but we still share a lot of activities.

Before almost all of our friends were shared friends, but now each of us has friends in our groups.

Mary and I just booked a 10 day New England Fall Discovery Tour and will leave from the parking lot by the clubhouse and we will join 20 or 25 people from the community for this tour.

We have so many other groups we would like to join but our calendars are full at the present. Who knows, maybe after a while we will drop a group and add a group or two.

Meanwhile outside the community, I compete in Race Walking and am a member of the Atlanta Track Club and the USA Track & Field which I am on the race walking committee.  So that is another group that I share activities with friends.

The Walking Group at the hospital next door invited me to come back and I understand the group still meets that I started last October!  Maybe I will drop in this week for a walk with them. After The National Senior Games in June, maybe I will join them and get some members interested in Race Walking.

In Summary

As you can see, groups have an important role in our retirement. If you are having trouble getting started in retirement, visit your Active Adult Senior Senior or find you an Active Adult Community to visit, to see what they offer. You will be glad you did.


Active Adult Living

Active Adult Sayings

Living in an Active Adult Community for over two years, I have observed some sayings unique to those living in this type community. If you have any sayings to add to the list, please reply in the comments.

Sayings You Hear in an Active Adult Community

We are all in this Together. This is a very common saying in many Active Adult Communities I have visited. This means we arrived at this time and location with the same goals in mind, to have a good time and make the most of every day. We are family.

Do it while you can.  The most common use of this is “travel before it’s too late”.  While you can and before it’s too late are interchangeable. In general,  it means being active while you can. Walk while you can, play while you can, travel while you can. We all have friends who not longer can and no one knows the future.

Let me check my calendar. Believe it or not, activities are so frequent and varied  that they need to be scheduled. Plus the memory is not what it used to be. The answer is to keep a good calendar and check it each morning or the night before.

I will be gone. Even though most of us are retired, you can’t guarantee we will be here.

Where are you traveling to next? The extent of travel of most people here is amazing. It’s always interesting to hear where people are going to next.

See you next Spring.  This means I will be at my Florida home. Of course in Florida, they will say “See you next Winter”.

Young person. Anyone 65 or younger.

Did you hear about… News is spread by word of mouth and Facebook. It is not always correct.

Can you fill in for me? This means the person asking is on a team. Could refer to bocce, hand and foot, or any games with regular teams. The person cannot play that date and wants you to fill in for them. They in turn will fill in for you when needed.

What good Netflix Series are you watching? How else would I find out about Longmire, Foley’s War, The Crown and others. Recommendations are generally very good and I like to ask friends this question.

Let’s do lunch. Very popular pastime. There are street lunches, group lunches and individual lunches. I got an invitation this month from Ned to do a street lunch, from Wylie to do Wylie’s group lunch, and I organized the Larry’s Pickleball Group lunch. Then we did a lunch with Pete and Brenda at a tea house. Mary Ann lunched with a different person every day this week!

Things You Don’t Hear

Things you don’t hear, at least very often include. I think this has to do with living in and enjoying the present.

What did you do?  I was surprised this didn’t come up more often, but glad it doesn’t.  It really doesn’t matter who you used to be. Most are not out to impress anyone. Of course, we all share some of our life experiences from time to time, but it’s not the burning qualifying question of “What did you do?”

Where are you from? – Again sometimes, not very often. We are from all over, even locals.

Gossip about a person.  – Well maybe you do, but not often. Just move on, there are plenty of people here.  People like to keep positive and gossip is negative.

Politics.  During the election, yes. Otherwise not too much.  Again with a divided country, politics is generally considered by most to be negative and who needs that.

So the sayings you hear in an Active Adult Community I fully understand now and am using the same terms. They are no longer foreign to me. They bind us together and reflect who we are and what we are doing.

Robert Fowler
Baby boomer, active adult, senior, retiree and all around nice guy.